Self-Love in Action
A practical lens on feeding love or feeding fear
You know the story about two wolves—love and fear—and the one you feed grows? Here's a practical way to work with that in daily life.
When my little daughter wakes up, she immediately expresses her inner movement. She feeds the wolf of love. When I wake up, it's not the same—naturally. I'm not a child anymore. But if I get up and immediately rush into what I "should" do, I've fed the wolf of fear.
"Every act is an act of self-definition."
Going to "shoulds" first is like telling myself: "You aren't important, only your output is," or "Life is dangerous, there's no time for play." Self-love is telling myself what my ideal parent would: "I'm so glad you're here." "How do you feel?" "What do you want right now?"
Micro-Practices
- Ask: "What would feel nourishing right now?"
- Notice: "Did I choose love or fear in this small moment?"
- If you noticed fear—choose again. Give it a second thought.
Habits change by repetition with kindness. The last word you say to yourself in a moment is the one that counts. If you ended on a negative thought—add one more that carries love. Give it a second thought.