Honor Window
A powerful process for healing primary relationships
I learned the Honor Window from its creator, Michael Skye. It's an 8-hour journey that requires readiness, courage, and a willingness to let go of control. What emerges is profound peace with our primary relationships—usually with our parents—which transforms how we approach all other relationships.
The Foundation
Every relationship we have is filtered through the lens of our primary relationships. The way our parents loved us, failed us, saw us, or didn't see us becomes the template through which we experience all love, all failure, all being seen or unseen.
We don't relate to people as they are. We relate to them through the unhealed wounds and unmet needs from our earliest bonds.
The Process
The Honor Window isn't therapy. It's not about analyzing or understanding. It's about releasing what's been held and finding peace with what is.
Through a careful, intensive process, we:
- Surface the deep, often unconscious patterns from primary relationships
- Feel what wasn't safe to feel as children
- Express what was never expressed
- Release the energy that's been locked in resentment or longing
- Find genuine peace and even gratitude for what was
The Requirement
This process requires letting go of control. You can't think your way through it. You can't manage it. You have to surrender to what wants to move through you.
That's why it takes courage. And that's why it works.
The Transformation
When we make peace with our primary relationships, everything changes:
- We stop seeing our partners as our parents
- We stop trying to get from others what we didn't get as children
- We stop recreating the same wounds in new relationships
- We become free to love and be loved as adults
My Experience
When I went through the Honor Window, I thought I had already done my work with my parents. I'd been in therapy, done workshops, had conversations. But this was different.
In those 8 hours, I touched rage I didn't know I was carrying. Grief I'd never let myself feel. And underneath it all, a love for my parents that had been buried under decades of protection.
I walked out different. Not because my parents changed—they didn't. But because my relationship to our history transformed. What was a wound became a story. What was resentment became understanding. What was missing became whole.
The Ripple Effect
When you heal your primary relationships, you don't just heal yourself. You heal the pattern that would have been passed to your children. You free your partners from carrying your projections. You give everyone in your life the gift of relating to them as they are, not as shadows of your past.
This is how generational healing happens—one courageous soul at a time.